Don't Call it a Comeback by Keira D'Amato

Subtitle: Running Imitates Life (Imitates Running)

Introduction

Posted on April 6, 2026

By Olivia Baker

In many ways, running is a metaphor for life. The hills and valleys on the marathon course mirror the ups and downs we walk through during our lifetime. The slow grind of training day in and out parallels the perseverance we exhibit on the long path of personal growth as we age. The unexpected downpour, pothole in the road and shifting sands of the trails bring the same unpredictability we experience in daily life. Whether you are a marathoner, sprinter or fall somewhere in between, running still teaches many of the same life lessons.

As Meb Keflezighi puts it, "Like the marathon, life can sometimes be difficult, challenging and present obstacles, however if you believe in your dreams and never ever give up, things will turn out for the best." Michael Johnson puts it differently in saying,"Life is often compared to a marathon, but I think it is more like being a sprinter; long stretches of hard work punctuated by brief moments in which we are given the opportunity to perform at our best." Though they come from vastly different backgrounds, both Johnson and Keflezighi point toward the same lesson regarding the endurance needed to succeed in both running and life.

If you've been in this book club long enough, you know that we love to talk about the ways that running parallels life. Keira D'Amato would be the first person to tell you that though she is a former American record-holder in the marathon and multi-U.S. Champion, running is but a metaphor in this book about life. This is why I chose Don't Call It a Comeback by Keira D'Amato for the 26th installment of Runners Who Read. While the stories are about running, this book is actually about being open to opportunities, embracing failure and celebrating small wins amongst other life lessons learned through sport. Substitute running for anything you are personally passionate about and you have lessons that are applicable across all fields of life. In this way, running imitates life (imitates running).

Discussion Questions:

  1. In what ways have you experienced the parallels between running and life?
  2. What are you most looking forward to learning about from this book?



Subtitle: Failure is a Paper Tiger

Chapters 1-3

Posted on April 20, 2026

By Olivia Baker

Keira D'Amato has been an incredibly gifted runner from the start of her career. In her own words, "I was always an athlete. And I was always fast." (pg#15). From lapping her teammates around the field in gym class in elementary school and setting the school record in the mile, to winning six Virginia state championship styles before she graduated high school, Keira has always had that talent. In college, she would go on to rack up eleven Patriot League Championships at American University and then become a four-time NCAA All-American before her collegiate career was all said and done.

The logical next step was the professional ranks. However, things didn't go as she had planned. The fun of racing was slowly replaced with overwhelming anxiety now that running was her profession. Good results came fewer and further between, and eventually injuries began to pile up. By early 2008, instead of preparing for the Olympic Trials that coming summer, she was fighting off a bout of recurring stress fractures in her ankle. After a multitude of doctors' visits and her health insurance denying coverage (twice) for the expensive surgery she would need to prevent the fractures from continuing, Keira began to come around to the idea that it was time to retire from competitive racing. The prospect of leaving the sport came with a fear of losing more than just a job, but friends and even her very sense of self-worth. Nonetheless, the morning after making the decision to walk away, she felt… relief and happiness.

She could sleep in without a workout hanging over her head, there were no physical therapy appointments, and though her schedule was different, she still had the support of her old friends from the training group and opportunities to reconnect with some of her high school buddies too. She got a job at Freddie Mac in 2009 and started making money and finally feeling like she was adulting. Though it wasn't all smooth sailing—Keira definitely took time to mourn the goals she never hit and the lifestyle she had once enjoyed—she was determined not to let grief dictate her life. At the end of the day, the fears that felt like they would be world-ending weren't nearly as bad as she thought they would be. In fact, they were empowering.

"I experienced the ultimate failure, and it wasn't nearly as scary as I thought. Weirdly, it brought me power and confidence," she writes (pg#33).

And that's the thing about failure. Most of the time it is a paper tiger that is rarely as bad as we build it up to be in our worst case scenario doom spirals. This isn't to suggest that failure isn't hard. If you've ever cared deeply about reaching a goal and missed it, you know the sting of defeat. It most certainly is hard and it's important to grieve the loss that may come with it. However, when we realize that it isn't as bad as we imagined—that we will wake up the next morning and the world has not ended—there is an opportunity to learn and grow stronger. For Keira, this meant learning that she could experience "the ultimate failure" and still build herself into something amazing outside of running. Years later, it would also give her the freedom to return to competitive running, but this time without fear of failure. So this week, may we view failure through the proper lens, and when it comes (not if, this is definitely a when), I hope that we will not be paralyzed by fear, but grieve adequately and come back stronger.

Discussion Questions:

  1. In what way has a failure in life set you up to come back stronger?

2. In chapter 1, Keira writes "If you're trying to climb Mount Everest and look straight to the top, you'll quit before you ever get going. So, don't look up. Stare directly in front of you—and take a single step." Do you agree with this advice? Are you an "eyes on the prize" type of person or are you focused on simply taking the next step?



Subtitle: Don't Forget to Have Fun

Chapters 4-6

Posted on April 20, 2026

By Olivia Baker

There is a long held stereotype in sports that the best athletes are the ones with the greatest single-minded focus on their task to the exclusion of everything else. They eat, sleep and breathe their sport from the crack of dawn deep into the night. When no one has awakened for the day, they are up and already grinding. While others are partying, they're in a dark room studying their craft. In soccer, one might call this being married to the game. In basketball, some would say "ball is life." In distance running, well, there may not be a trope associated with it. But in a sport as solitary as running can be, you can picture the elite marathon runner cranking out 120-130 lonely miles each week and curating a precise schedule of fueling, rest and not much else around that.

During her first stint as a professional runner straight out of college, Keira D'Amato believed that she too needed to approach her sport with this level of gravity and there was no better example than her former teammate, Alan Webb. In her words "He was the epitome of serious—even monk-like at times…I observed him up close, found incontrovertible proof and made my computation: to succeed, I had to be driven and muted." (pg# 101). Though she was never quite able to "rein in her sparkle" (pg#101), taking on this mentality became a burden that sucked the joy out of running. Ultimately, it became one of the reasons she left the sport so early the first time and a reason she feared going all in after her return. By the time she had returned to running it was no longer a profession, but a refuge from the chaos of raising two toddlers while her husband was away on military deployment. If she took it more seriously, would running once again become a place of stress instead of a place of peace?

Not this time! As Keira made the decision to go all in again, she made a list of things that made running fun and prioritized those things as a part of her training. For her, this list included allowing for flexibility in training. She had a weekly mileage and workouts to get in but when and where during the week she completed each session was up to her. This allowed her to accommodate the unpredictability of her life outside of running. The list also included racing often. Marathon builds can be long and monotonous so breaking it up with races at shorter distances and fitting them into her program as workouts made the grind much more enjoyable. Finally, she found fun in community. Whether that meant buying her husband a bike so that he could ride alongside her during her longer runs, writing jokes into her workouts on Strava just to have a laugh with fellow runners, or reaching out to runners in the community via Facebook to see if they'd want to join her for a workout so she didn't have to do it alone, Keira learned how to leverage this beautifully diverse running community to share the burden of the grind.

As a result, she actually raced better. She didn't have to choose between joy and intensity, and neither do we. Whether you are a first-time runner or seasoned racer, running can feel like a grind. What Keira's story teaches us is that it doesn't always have to be in order for us to achieve our goals. Being successful doesn't always mean being serious. Being intense doesn't mean you can't have joy. We can work hard AND have fun. And when we prioritize fun as a part of the process of chasing our goals, the reward is both the journey and the outcome.

Discussion Questions:

  1. What is on your list of things that make running fun for you?
  2. In chapter 6, Keira encourages us to give it all we've got in our performance because we will either achieve our goal or learn something in the loss. What valuable lessons have you learned from a recent performance in which you missed out on reaching your goal?



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